I read this automated message yesterday afternoon and got to thinking about relationships. After all what’s wrong with bonding over common experiences? I felt resistance to agreeing with the message but then the Lord suddenly reminded be of trauma bonds and bonding over trauma.
Basically, the Lord reminded be that shared trauma and co-dependency are not cues for compatibility. Chronic destructive cycles, addictive behaviors and “they understand my pain” is NOT love. We were made for loving relationships and partnerships. It is completely natural to want that intimacy. However, abuse, manipulation, fear, and control are not part of God’s plan for healthy and loving relationships (romantic, friends or otherwise).
God’s heart for us ❤️
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
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Learn more about Trauma Bonds, if not for yourself, for those you care about.
Additional resource and excellent book! The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
Love always,
it’s Nita.
it's Nita. 
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