• Experience Management – Church Edition

    XM or Experience Management has been my official area of employment for the last 3.5 years. But really all activity is somewhere in these layers of experience.

    Quick example: I am a prospective college applicant on a school’s website (interface) and interact with the tools there to fulfill my application. These tools are designed by UX staff. I continue my application journey and may need to talk to admins, counselors, support areas, etc. All these parts are ongoing CX overtime. I graduate and still am involved with CX as an alumni (think homecoming and giving campaigns). Then overarching all of this is the Brand Experience itself. The reason I may have picked this prospective college in the first place is because I had a positive brand perception. Maybe it was a sporting event, alumni interaction, commercial, reputation, social media post, etc. Over time my brand experience is enforced or eroded by my experiences. Thus, all of XM works together for the individual within the layers over time.

    Now consider the modern church.

    We have user interfaces for mobile apps like Church Center. We are deep in CX with Sunday programming, events, food, greeters, cleaning crews, outreach, etc. We strive for a positive brand presence even for those that pass by our buildings and even more so we extend ourselves on social media.

    All this to say, the modern church and even the church in its infancy has always had experience management.

    But what makes church different from business “customers”? Believers aren’t simply consumers of church experiences; we produce experiences in our lives everyday.

    As a believer I experience God everyday through personal communion AND communion with others.

    So when people say “I have never met a Christian like you” or “All Christians are …” consider why the Christian brand is unappealing or not to those perishing.

    Yes you could improve your graphic design or mobile app but really people are struggling on the relational level.

    Yes we need more laborers to support CX (which includes admin, volunteers, and ministry staff). But ultimately we need every believer equipped to be hands and feet of Jesus. A true encounter with God changes everything!

    More than anything we need the real, working presence and power of God touching hearts and minds. ❤️😌 We have his treasure in these earthen vessels. Let’s equip ourselves to be salt and light not just amongst our own gatherings but in the world!

    His Best Always,

    Nita

  • Wellness across layers and time

    I was introduced to ecological theory (understanding how an individual’s life is influenced by their environment) in grad school as a means to understand a student’s experience in learning. However, every person is situated in these ecologies/layers.

    We are individuals, encountering other individuals, encountering systems of various sizes without end.

    Some of us have more or less exposure but none of us are completely isolated or an island.

    And in these encounters we want to maxmize our experience of life…

    Let’s consider wellness. I’m sure you are familiar with the dimensions in the photo below. Afterall, we are advertised to on all sides with tips, tricks, and tinctures to obtain ultimate personal wellness.

    So the question is, how do you manage all these dimensions of wellness across all the layered experiences of your life?

    What becomes your guiding point when each area depends on one another and we can’t do this life alone?

    Answer: it’s spirit-centered! Inside every person is a piece of God’s image. I would say the spiritual dimension is more than just purpose and meaning but foundationally identity. When identity is anchored in The Truth of who you are, you can move more effectively in this world.

    Examples:

    You can have wisdom and self-discipline for physical wellness with balance and joy.

    Socially you can learn yourself and grow in community. Not only with a church but also in others spaces.

    You can soundly strategize to develop your finances and use your God-given skills and abilities to create wealth.

    You aren’t so tossed to and fro by every wave of emotion. It’s not that you become unfeeling but the highest highs or lowest lows are always inhabited by God’s presence.

    You can gain greater job satisfaction by knowing who you are really working for and what or who you are called to serve at your place of work. No small parts but all pieces of a whole.

    You can learn and grow no matter your past intellectual pursuits. You are graced to grow in knowledge and understanding.

    You can keep a presence of peace and make change in your environments (small or large). You can cultivate and improve spaces you enter.

    It’s all connected! But I guarantee if you try to be the person that holds your world and everything else together on your own based relative truth, you will always be chasing a moving target.

    Because dear friends you were created for a purpose on purpose. That’s the place to build from. ❤️

    His Best Always,

    Nita

  • NOW TUMOR FREE

    Nearly 7 days ago I had a 2nd pituitary surgery, which only had an outcome of getting 70% of the remaining tumor BUT GOD! The whole tumor was removed and there have been no unexpected surgical complications.

    I’m still in recovery and there are ways to go before I’m medically cured BUT GLORY!! Typing this part of my testimony really doesn’t explain 😩

    but the same God by The Holy Spirit that prompted me to ask for bloodwork in January 2019 (because I felt something was wrong)

    is the same God that opened doors for treatment at MD Anderson while I was still in grad school and answered my prayer for the best (literally my one of my doctors was Dr. Best)

    is the same God that brought me through the 1st surgery in August 2019 #mdanderson

    is the same God that empowered to finish my dissertation 4 months later in Feb 2020 (right before my 30th birthday and COVID shutdowns)

    is the same God the provided job opportunities and provisions to care for my medical needs all these years

    is the same God that didn’t just do but did exceedingly, abundantly in that time. He worked my character and I developed disciplines to pay off student debt 100%, car paid off, and more recently becoming a homeowner.

    is the same God that brought people to help and support me… most didn’t even know the medical side or probably assumed I was just fine. Nevertheless, they were just kind and obedient to reach out for a meal or chat or graciously accept my decline without extended explanation.

    is the same God that opened my mind and heart up to a 2nd surgery with hope for success #emoryhealthcare

    is the same God whose supernatural peace has kept my mind and spirit, period!!

    That same God, My God who began a good work in me is faithful to complete it! For those in a similar position, keep walking with the Lord. I know I wanted an instant miracle when I was first diagnosed and for whatever reason, here am I but I AM HERE.

    And because I am still here, there is still more for me to do. ❤️

    His Best Always,

    Nita

    #acromegaly #pituitarytumor #surgery #testimony #healing #purposedrivenlife #hope

  • Jehovah Shamar

    Encountering the nature of God through experiencing God is how faith is grown into maturity.

    In times of lack, you can experience supernatural provision (Jireh).

    In times of anxiety, you can experience supreme peace (Shalom).

    In times you feel forgetten, you can experience His personal presence (Shammah).

    In times you’re hidden, you can experience being known and seen (Roi).

    While there are many other names, these names come to mind for me and another “new” one.

    Not new in the sense that I just discovered something about God that was never known but I’d never heard it spoken or even seen it written down.

    A couple weeks ago as my Pastor was preaching on what to do when God is silent, The Holy Spirit brought to mind the word “kept”.

    As I’ve done many times in the past, I looked up the word.

    Kept – guarded, protected, perserved, looked after.

    I’ve been meditating on this and last night it sparked an idea to look up where kept, keeper is mentioned of God.

    Because surely God is a Keeper. God has kept me in many ways and many seasons through trials and tribulations (some of which were my own making).

    And I certainly don’t mean that as hyperbole.

    I can look back and see I’ve experienced the very tangible nature of God as my keeper.

    Jehovah Shamar in my waiting

    Jehovah Shamar in my wondering

    Jehovah Shamar in my wandering

    Jehovah Shamar in my obedience

    Jehovah Shamar in my disobedience

    Jehovah Shamar in the wilderness

    Jehovah Shamar in the Promised Land

    Because it’s not about whether my life is going well or bad.

    God is still the same. Yesterday, now, and forever…

    So as I walk through my current season of dealing with a rare chronic disease of nearly 7 years…

    Waiting, wondering, wandering, pleading, lamenting, raging, worrying, hoping

    I can look back and see my Keeper.

    Through the diagnosis of Acromegaly, He kept my mind.

    Through the first brain surgery, He kept my body.

    Through these last 6+ years of treatment (some of which made things worse), He’s kept my heart and soul.

    The healing I so gleefully believed for all those years ago didn’t come suddenly. But the doesn’t mean the Lord wasn’t there or that I’ve been forgetten.

    If I only looked for Jehovah Rapha (God my Healer), I’d be angry and disappointed as if God isn’t who He says He is.

    Moreover, I would have missed Jireh, Shalom, Shammah, Roi, and now Shamar.

    And so, in the not yet, I still testify that God is still good.

    Selah. 😌

    His best always,

    Nita

  • A month ago the Lord was speaking to me about Joel 2:25 (a scripture about restoration after years of loss) and the hope for things not yet done in 2024. It was a brief but powerful reminder of time and opportunity for completion!

    In a work meeting today, our team had a moment to speak to our word for 2025. I was nearly the last person to share mine (and while many words swirled around in my head) I felt REVIVE was the word for me this year.

    Specifically, the second definition of revive… “to restore from a depressed, inactive, or unused state: bring back”…

    Because many things in my life aren’t dead per se but rather have been cast aside due to choice or circumstance BUT they weren’t meant to stay there.

    So for 2025 it’s REVIVE… 💪🏾😏🙌🏾🏃🏾‍♀️

    #newyear #wordoftheyear #revive #joy #hope #energy #strength #family #health #relationships #purpose #tapin

    His Best Always,

    Nita

  • God moments…

    God moments…

    So I’m doing some medical follow ups today. Day started fine but was running late to first appointment. Finished that and was 45min early for the second appointment.

    Went downstairs to get food at the cafe (never been before). As I’ve been thinking all day about health, I can be gloriously optimistic and faith-filled or pretty down. Today was a middle of the road day. There is still unknown but plenty to be thankful for.

    My total at the cafe was $16.33. Over the years I developed a habit of looking up numbers I come across and that helped me memorize scripture.

    John 16:33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

    So in my almost getting in my feelings, I get this “random” encouragement. Moreover, it happened at the exact time I needed it.

    God’s loving reminder in the middle of my journey.

    Hang in there friends ❤️ Don’t overlook the little moments, God is always speaking.

    #encouragement #faith #journey #health #healing #scripture #acromegaly

    His Best, Always.

    Nita

  • Be transformed

    I really love education.

    I think often about the ways and means one can acquire information.

    In an age and time where information is at our fingertips, literally, we have access to more knowledge than ever before.

    But… knowing isn’t always enough and knowledge doesn’t necessarily equate to power. 

    …that requires an understanding of when knowledge should be applied in a given context. That’s wisdom. 

    Thus, while stockpiling information is informative…action and transformation is accomplished through applied knowledge.

    There’s no limit to the opportunity to expand our understanding.

    In fact, our brains have an incredible capacity for growth—that’s neuroplasticity. Meaning your brain on a physical level can remodel itself to function in a new way. 

    Changing the physical pathways in your mind is literally renewing your mind. 

    We stretch, grow, and encounter new challenges that force our minds to assimilate and accommodate new information. 

    But as I stated earlier, the goal is true transformation.

    To confront those old, wore roads in our brains and pave the way for something new!

    That’s why I love to learn.

    And because it’s not just about accumulation but dissemination of knowledge, I love to teach. 

    Sharing can be caring in a world where silos dominate and people would seemingly rather hear what makes them comfortable. 

    Here’s my personal example 😊

    One of my favorite topics is identity… Some say it’s how you see yourself, others how others see you, or even your skills and competencies. 

    But perhaps it is simply the fact of being yourself… I am Anita. I am identified and called by my name. It’s my own personal specification and recognition as myself. 

    So what’s the teachable moment here?

    For me it was/is untangling labels, falsehoods, and ungodly beliefs associated with my being and getting to the root of myself.

    I am not just a bundle of labels. 

    I am not my work performance, athletic ability, appearance, age, race, gender, relationship status, or even the next best personality test or strength finder. 

    These are all attributes of myself but who is self? 

    Honestly, I am still working through that. 

    Gratefully, I’ve made many improvements over the years… less reliant on status or job title…but I am still renewing my mind to the root

    Still digging the old pathways and actively rejecting what is not the truth regarding my worth and value. 

    Here’s the truth, before my days were written, even one, the Lord know me. And because He knew me, I AM, can show me. 

    That’s a journey of discovery and renewal. 

    Because when I don’t know He does and when I ask He reveals.

    Who knows us better than our Maker 😊

    The path I am working out in my mind is embracing my God-given self…

    Not the labels and tags from the world’s opinions and judgement. 

    Just being me. A work in progress but nonetheless His masterpiece.

    That change in pathways is a great place to be. 

    Little by little, a little becomes a lot. That’s progress, that’s power!

    His Best Always,

    Nita

  • When a word comes to me back-to-back, I pay extra attention. This time it was Habakkuk 2:3 after noticing a post on Habakkuk 2:2 a couple days ago.

    Like I’ve done in the past (but not recently), I did my own little study/breakdown of this single verse.

    What stood out to me this time were the words linger, wait, and delay. At face value these mean the same thing, right? Not exactly…

    So I go to my concordance to confirm these are indeed different words with different meanings. And they are (Hebrew word at the bottom of the left page).

    Without the extra definitions the scripture reads like this:

    For the revelation awaits an appointed time;
    it speaks of the end
    and will not prove false.
    Though it linger, wait for it;
    it will certainly come
    and will not delay.

    Then I went to Google the English definition to sort out the meaning. Asking the Lord on the way to make this make sense because clearly, God isn’t telling me that the vision waits, so wait, because it won’t wait. Haha, no.

    To get more clarity, I got the English definitions to fill in the gaps.

    With the extra definitions it reads like this:

    For the revelation awaits an appointed time;
    it speaks of the end
    and will not prove false.
    Though [a long time is spent, a period of time passes slowly], [stay where you are until a particular time or until something else happens] for it;
    it will certainly come and will not [postpone, take place at a time later than first scheduled, defer, be left behind].

    Of all these inserts, the expanded definition of delay was most powerful to me because it referenced the first part of the verse, an appointed time!

    And in case you’ve gotten this far and still feel a little discouraged, remember twice in this verse we are assured of the truth of the matter… the vision will surely come to pass, it won’t prove false!

    Yet still, the tricky part about humanity is time can CRAWL. Especially when there is something God has placed on your heart. A revelation or a vision yet to come to pass. But be encouraged that it will happen.

    In the meantime, strengthen yourself in your spirit. Sing songs and praise the Lord! Because Lord knows there is no other source of true strength than the joy of the Lord.

    That is my current season. I choose joy!

    #waitwell #workthewait #choosejoy

    His Best Always,

    Nita

  • Your call right now

    “Your calling to your sphere of influence is important! Don’t worry about the numbers, just be obedient right where you are.”

    As I finished up my workday and reflected on my future career/life, God gave me the words above.

    I think that is especially timely at this point in year. Perhaps you had goals that have already fallen to the wayside. Or perhaps your goals and dreams are moving at a snail’s pace. Whatever the case, the point is to rest in God’s grace for wherever you are right now.

    Set your heart and mind to His standards and not the world’s. Yes, you may be called to nations and thousands upon thousands. Your business or career may become widely successful. Or you may be called to a close few in a small part of your local community or your family.

    But guess what? You are still successful as long as you are being obedient. The world would have you think you need a certain number of followers or a certain amount of dollars to be worthy of being an influencer.

    Folks, we are all influencers! We all have an impact on the people and places we encounter. So no matter where you are or what you are doing, do it with all your might unto the Lord (Colossians 3:23-24).

    Enjoy your process and enjoy your journey. Embrace your call right now. Big or small results are not your measure of worth.

    Let us all get to the end of our race to hear “Well done!” (Matthew 25:21).

    His Best Always,

    Nita

  • RECALIBRATE

    Definition: to check again by comparison with a standard (true value).

    Why is this important?

    We set our lives against various standards/values (definitions below). However, without recalibration we can veer off course. We have the intention to stay the course and yet we can drift away from that path.

    By recalibrating, we put our values before us and check the fruit of our lives against these values. Does the fruit of our lives measure up to the standard?

    It is not a matter of perfection, but it is a matter of honest reflection. If we find we are off from the standard, then we need to make adjustments.

    This applies to health, finances, relationships, mindset, beliefs, business, ministry, etc. All areas of our lives can use examination and possibly adjustment to get back in line.

    And sometimes, perhaps even the standard itself needs to change. Some of the strife in our lives is because we are trying to strive to obtain a standard that is not the truth or even down right harmful.

    So with all that said, let’s go folk! RECALIBRATE

    Little by little, a little becomes a lot. ✅

    Check: examine (something) in order to determine its accuracy, quality, or condition, or to detect the presence of something.

    Comparison: a consideration or estimate of the similarities or dissimilarities between two things or people.

    Standard: an idea or thing used as a measure, norm, or model in comparative evaluations.

    Value: a person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgment of what is important in life.

    Nita ❤️