it's Nita.

This was a Facebook post a few years ago and I thought I’d bring it over to this platform because whew! This absolutely still rings true. I’m so thankful God kept working with me until I got this revelation. I hope it helps you too.

Friends vs. Intimates :: Lord! I was thinking about why I don’t have any guy friends and feeling kind of annoyed again but then God spoke to me “you do”. And I thought “how? We aren’t as close as my girl friends?”

Well that’s how it’s supposed to be! I looked up the definition of friendly and it means ‘to be kind or pleasant’. The word friend means ‘to love’. That’s scriptural. As Christians we are called to love everyone. Then I looked up intimate. A synonym for intimate is friend but intimate means something more. Something deeper. The root of intimate is innermost…

So while I have been all up in arms about not having guy friends. God just cleared it up for me with this, “All can be friends but not all can or will be intimates.” (You can be friendly with the opposite sex without being sexual or unhealthy attached but you must guard your heart and set your boundaries. Actually the same goes for the same sex. Soul ties are real y’all).

That being said, the man that will truly be an intimate in my life is my future husband. Even now my most intimate relationship is with God. God is my covering and will remain so after I get married. This was totally a duh moment for me because the intimacy I craved from relationship with people has to come from God. 🥰

God fulfills that longing for connection. And has placed amazing friends in my life as support, wisdom, counsel and confidants.

Yet still, the joy in my future marriage will be so much sweeter because now I understand the difference between being friendly or having friends and being intimate. Note: Of course, I will be friends with my future husband, but we will also have an intimacy that no other physical man will have with me because God joined us together. Our life and purpose will be one.

For this very reason I won’t settle for less. The wait is worth it. 💕

Work the wait.

Love always,

Nita.